Even Raja's best friend asks him "Beywaa se kon pyaar karta hai?* (Who falls in love with a widow)" because " Jor barabar ka acha lagta hai (a couple should be equal)."Īnd when Raja finally gets to marry Meeru, Baby baji refuses to celebrate and hates both her brother and sister-in-law, because she is still single. At this point, the two women have never even met her, but they know she is widowed and that Raja wants a love marriage, that's enough for them to hate her. When Raja expresses his desire to marry Meeru, his mother and sister immediately call her a churail who has trapped their innocent son/brother. It was painful to watch, but it was more painful to acknowledge this is what happens in our society.
Because of her widow status she is shunned by society and even asked to leave her own cousin's wedding because she might jinx the bride. She is sent back to her sister by the late husband's family, returned like goods at an electronic store. Meeru loses her first husband and instead of any form of compassion, is treated like a pariah. His mother responds with " Mard ki umar koi nahi dekhta (No one looks at a man's age)." Raja protests waiting for his own marriage because of his Baby baaji, pointing out that even he is growing older. She even loudly complains about how " Baby ki umar nkli ja rahi hai (Baby is getting too old for marriage)." Consumed by the fact that Baby isn't getting a good rishta, her mother (Samina Ahmed) reacts by shaming her looks, telling her to lose weight, watch her skin tone and the works.
And while that in itself is an important issue, the team behind the film takes it one step ahead by showing how this damages one's mentality at every stage and how it affects the women who fall victim to this gruesome mindset.įarhana, affectionately known as Baby baaji (Faiza Hasan) can't get married because her family can't afford the jahez. The 'load' in Load Wedding is about the burdens that must be borne to make a marriage happen, namely jahez (dowry). Load Wedding points out all the toxicity towards women in desi wedding cultureįrom the name I was expecting the movie to have many jabs at the electricity crises that Karachi goes through (pun on load wedding ya know?) but the film takes place in Nirali, a town near Lahore. Where many Pakistani films show the happy mehndis and dholkis, Load Wedding shows the actual stress, pain and unnecessary hassle behind making a wedding happen in the first place. I was upset that these issues are still prevalent in our society. I was infuriated at the realities the film was portraying. In fact Load Wedding has been one of the better films I have seen in a long while. Raja's situation had me infuriated, but not at the movie.
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